Do you think men with big dick's are somehow special?
By: Rico Woods
In gaydom, we often put a premium on size. That may be difficult to read and (perhaps) politically incorrect but it also happens to be true.
Not that there’s anything wrong with wanting a big D. Let’s face it – there are times in life when guzzling down milk from someone massive is a needed treat.
But the hard truth is that when we only focus on his largeness, we can unintentionally distort reality.
Specifically, I’m talking about big dick syndrome.
What’s that? You’ve never heard of this before? Well, let me give you a quick definition. Big d-ck syndrome (BDS) is when we assign magical traits to a man who has an enormous piece.
It’s kind of like meeting a celebrity. While we don’t really know who they are, we nonetheless project positive attributes onto them.
In research psychology, this is called the halo effect.
What follows are 5-signs you may have BDS that might surprise you. Some of these traits may be obvious and others, not so much. Read them all in order to fully absorb their deeper meaning.
Check it out.
1. You think he’s more manly
Thanks to cultural bias, many of us have come to believe that men with big D’s are automatically masculine. In truth, length or girth has nothing to do with it.
That’s because constructs of gender are psychologically based and not about anatomy.
If you are a person who buys into this misperception, consider it a strong sign of BDS.
2. You look past his negatives
It’s easy to get caught up in the moment when you are bouncing on his tree-trunk like a rock star. And who doesn’t like developing a sore jaw from time to time?
But if you can’t see that he treats you like dirt or purposely ignore his abusive ways – because you are so attached to his log, you very well could have BDS.
3. You choose based on size
Have you ever had a choice between two men and picked the one with the bigger D – even though he probably wasn’t the best match?
Do you regularly turn away guys who check all your boxes but fall short of your size requirement? If you have a history of making poor dating picks because size has gotten in your way, chalk it up to a strong sign you have BDS.
4. You base your expectations on p-rn.
This is an easy one but must be mentioned none the less. If you hook up with men and become instantly disappointed when they aren’t what you see on video or online (aka Tumblr), consider it a sign.
Here’s the deal. Most men aren’t anywhere near what you see on those vids. The average size yum-stick is only 5 to 6 inches, depending on who is putting out the research.
And just remember, it’s not always a good thing to be massive. Read about this large guy’s woes here.
5. You neglect his sexual needs
The final sign is more insidious and it goes something like this. When you obsessively focus on getting your bedroom needs met and neglect his, you definitely have BDS.
Just because the man is huge doesn’t mean he’s a bottom. It also doesn’t mean that he wants to drill you every time you hook up.
Do you ever ask him what he wants or do you just assume he’s going to plow you like a field? The answer to that question may reveal important insight.
What Can You Do?
If the signs mentioned above strike a chord of familiarity, don’t feel bad. Many people (gay and straight) struggle with BDS.
The best thing you can do is develop mindfulness around your expectations. A good place to start is by reading about what it is like to be a massive man. By stepping into his shoes, you can begin to see who he is rather than who you want him to be.
Consider picking up the book: How to Live with a Huge Penis: Advice and Wisdom for Men Who Have Too Much. Available online at Amazon.
So, there you have it. How many of these traits apply to your situation? Do you have BDS?