Men & Self-Pleasure
Do men need to focus on self-pleasure more? The world is a crazy place right now, but one place that should feel comfortable and familiar is the bedroom. But what’s going on in most bedrooms right now? Not as much sex as you may think. And is that a good thing? In some cases, yes. And in some cases, no. But here’s one thing that should be celebrated, an increase in people focusing on self-pleasure.
For men, you might think that focusing on self-pleasure may not be the newest idea around the block. In fact, it seems pretty apparent that men are pretty in touch with their bodies… down there. We do have whole movie franchises about men and their need to pleasure themselves (American Pie). But here’s the thing, are men doing it just to go with the motions or to actually get in touch with their bodies? If you didn’t connect with the latter, here are a few reasons why you should reframe the way you think about your self-pleasuring practices.
Getting In Touch With Your Body
Again, we have a lot of time to ourselves right now. Might as well enjoy it. Taking the time to get to know what makes us feel good is great for both self-pleasuring but also for when we engage with others. Then, we can be vocal about our needs in the bedroom. Ultimately, practicing on yourself can lead to a better and happier sex life.
You’re In Control
Another benefit to self-pleasure is the fact that you aren’t being pushed and pulled by someone else. You can decide how fast to go, which areas to play with, and generally how to experience this moment all about you. Even better, you can then decide when to change things up.
As sexual therapist Dr. Chris Fox told Australian news source ABC:
“People need to be aware of what they’re doing and why they’re doing it. There’s no sure or quick way to achieve the elusive or the fantastical orgasm. Sometimes we actually have to change our techniques,” said Dr. Chris.
It’s Recommended By Experts
On top of all that, it’s also important to note that self-pleasure is recommended by health experts during these uncertain times. The New York City Department of Health issued a guidance in March to be careful around sex during this time. Their first advice was to focus on masturbation. But, sex with a committed partner is also a safety risk.
“You are your safest sex partner,” the document explained. “Masturbation will not spread COVID-19, especially if you wash your hands (and any sex toys) with soap and water for at least 20 seconds before and after.”
“The next safest partner is someone you live with,” health officials added. “Having close contact– including sex — with a small circle of people helps prevent spreading COVID-19.”
Fewer Condoms Anyway
With that, there are also two problems arising in the world of safe sex. Namely, there’s a shortage of condoms, AND sales for the products are down too.
For the first problem, the country of Malaysia has also been hit with a lockdown. The country is one of the top tier producers of condoms across the globe, but production has been slowed or halted because of the coronavirus.
“The world will definitely see a condom shortage,” Karex chief executive Goh Miah Kiat told AFP in April. “It's challenging, but we are trying our best right now to do whatever we can. It is definitely a major concern — a condom is an essential medical device.”
Then for the lowered sales, it’s pretty obvious why. Less people are engaging in hookups or entering new intimate relationships. Because of this, sales are down.
With all of that in mind, it seems you’d not only be smart to focus on your self-pleasuring techniques but you’d also be joining a majority of the world in doing so.
