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Cancer men in bed – the good, bad and ugly
Hunting for information about the Cancer man in bed? Trying to understand what turns him on? Do you need to know what turns him off?
If the answer is yes, you’ve come to the right place. That’s because I’m about to give you the real deal about Cancer men and lovemaking.
I should know because I’m a Cancer man.
While there are many sites on the web that focus on Cancers and romance, few pages exist that are written from the male perspective. Wouldn’t it be great to read something authored by a Cancer man?
Well, now is your chance. For most of my life, I’ve been fascinated with Vedic astrology. My father is a Cancer and so is my grandfather. A lot of my friends fall under the crab sign, too.
I can share with you from firsthand experience that Cancer men are a lot different in the sack than other zodiac signs. It’s not that we are special. We’re not. But we do tend to place an emphasis on the relationship more than anything else.
Before we dive too deep, you need to know that Cancers are feelers. One of the reasons our sign has two pincers (claws) is because we use them for touch. Without an emotional connection to another, not much can happen in the sack.
I’m not saying this is true one-hundred percent of the time. To be sure, some of us get our carnal needs met through the occasional hookup. But that’s not our truth north. Instead, we much prefer to be in a romantic relationship where the passion is high.
Keep all of this in mind as I go through the ten truths about what Cancer men are like in bed. Are you ready for specifics? Let’s jump right in!
1. Talking is important
If you’ve ever been close to someone who is Cancer, you know they like to talk – a lot. When it comes to getting it on, verbal communication is critical.
If you are the silent type that doesn’t like to say much behind closed doors, you might want to rethink this approach with Cancerian male.
A big turn on for us is knowing that you are “into it”. While we can intuit a lot because of our psychic abilities, your comments, whispers, and feedback are necessary ingredients for a hot time. An occasional, “I like that” or compliment is all that we need to get our juices flowing.
2. Eye contact matters
Earlier, I mentioned that we are feelers. In truth, all water signs are (see post on Scorpio men and Pisces moon signs). Part of our connection to you is established through visual contact.
In simple speak, we like looking into your eyes and seeing your emotions. Because many of us are empaths, we can sense what’s going on with you inside. In this way, your eyes act as emotional portals to your soul.
No, you don’t have to stare at us. But it does help to occasionally offer an extended gaze, particularly during moments of passion.
3. Environment matters
A universal truth for all Cancers is that we are homebodies. In fact, we are most comfortable when we are in our humble abodes. In many ways, this makes sense. Crabs live in their own shells; a place that offers safety and familiarity.
I’m mentioning this because where we do it matters. While the occasional romp in a car or outdoors can be stimulating, we much prefer doing it in the comfort of our own home (or yours).
If this trait makes us sound dull, I don’t blame you. But you came here looking for the truth on Cancers so that’s why I’m sharing.
4. Think mouth
Remember earlier when I mentioned that we like to talk? As you know, in order to converse, it (usually) involves use of the mouth. This area of the body happens to be one of our “zones”.
In other words, kissing, touching, and focusing on this area is a major turn on.
We also like to use our mouths as a tool of stimulation. I won’t go into a lot of detail here except to say that we dig using this orifice in several ways.
5. If you’re faking it, we’ll know
All water signs have empathic abilities. It is both a gift and a curse. The “good” is that we can tune into what you are feeling in powerful ways. The “bad” is we can tell if you are emotionally disconnected.
If you are the type that is looking for a quick bootie call, we can certainly rise to the occasion. But if you pretend to have feelings for us and you really don’t, we’ll pick up on this in a New York minute.
Some water signs, like Pisces and Scorpio, feed off puzzles and mysteries. Cancers, however, do not. If you are in it for the carnal factor, no problem. Just be real about what you feel.
6. The basics are fine
This trait could be a good or bad thing, depending on your perspective. Ninety-nine percent of the time, a Cancer male is going to be completely fine with the basics behind closed doors.
In this way, we are similar to Taurus men in bed. We don’t require a bunch of extras to get our juices flowing. What we do require – as a conduit of passion – is a strong connection to your heart.
Does this mean we are boring? You’ll need to decide for yourself. Here’s something to reflect on: Would you rather be with a man who is intimately adventurous or a guy who is close emotionally?
7. We like it in the shower
This point may sound silly but here it goes. Water signs receive energy from H20. For the men, this means doing it in the shower or bathtub is a turn on.
Beaches, lakes, and rivers also energize our libido. These are great places to consider if you want to make out.
8. Watch out during full moon
The Cancer sun sign is ruled exclusively by the moon. As a result, our emotional states are greatly influenced by this celestial body.
To keep it real, we are at our peak ability to preform during the three to four-day runup to a full moon. Conversely, we are at lowest performance levels after the full mood fades.
I’m including a chart here that shows the phases of the moon. Think “high” between waning gibbous and waxing gibbous. Think low between waxing crescent and waning crescent.
In the practical sense, what does this all mean? Simply put, we’re most turned on around the time when the moon is full. We are least turned on when it’s not.
9. We’re the anxious types
For better or worse, Cancers are often filled with anxiety. We tend to be worry warts, too. I’m mentioning this because when it comes to getting close, we often struggle with self-esteem.
We’re best paired with signs that have a calming effect on our emotions. Scorpio, Virgo, and Taurus have a way of softening our anxiety and helping us to stay centered in the moment.
Aquarius, Libra, and Gemini can have the opposite effect on us. I’m not saying this is always the case. There are exceptions. Regardless of your sign, bear in mind that anxiety is a real issue with us, which can sometimes impact performance.
10. We’re caretakers
If there is one thing that can be said about Cancerian men that’s true, it is this – we are major caretakers. But how does this translate in the area of lovemaking?
Simply put, we like satisfying your needs. This may sound amazing but if you happen to be a person who also likes to please, you’ll have to work on persuading your Cancer man to sit back and enjoy.
Otherwise, he’s going to focus most of his energy on making you happy, particularly when the emotional bond is strong.
Bringing It All Together
If you’ve got your sites set on a Cancer man, you’ll find a rewarding and meaningful relationship. Cancers place a high premium on loyalty and require an emotional connection for things to work.
If your man was born between June 21 and July 21, he’s ruled by the moon. What’s your Zodiac sign? Does it match with the crab?