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Getting straight men to go gay isn’t that hard
By Kevin Stone
If there’s one thing I like more than anything in this world is getting straight men to go gay. It’s particularly hot when the dude has a girlfriend or is married.
Yes, I know – you probably think I’m self-hating homo, right? I can assure you that I’m not. Instead, I’m just a gay man who prefers hooking up with straight boys.
To be more specific, I like the process of getting him to let down his guard and eventually – his pants. Maybe you can relate?
The last straight boy who went gay for me was a real looker. And it wasn’t that long ago. In fact, we still kick it once in a while.
The dude is 27, recently hitched and drives a pickup. While hard to describe, he’s about 6’1, 180 lbs. with a hairy chest and athletic bod. He’s also a redneck.
In any event, we met somewhat on accident.
I needed my home phone system rewired because I live in an old building. When I called the telecom company up to get the work done, he happened to be the repairman they dispatched.
His name is *Trent and I’m going to level with you. The dude has one of the thickest pieces I’ve ever seen or serviced.
I swear, there’s something in the water for these backwoods types, you know?
So, you are probably wondering how I was able to gulp down his seed? Well, I’m about to tell you.
In this guide, you will learn:
- How to know if he’s game
- Best ways to get his guard down
- Why hiding you are gay is a bad idea
- Ways to strengthen bond
- How to make first move
- Avoiding making the experience “gay”
- Making him beg for more
- Why taking it slow is important
- Handling kissing straight boys
- Avoiding the love trap
About Me
Before we get too far in, I'm thinking you might curious who is authoring this piece. I'd want to know. Here's the deal. I’m a 35-year old gay man that lives in Florida. While certainly not a model, I'm not ugly either. Let's just say I'm better than average.
Like you, I’m into straight boys. Think what you want but I just prefer getting with them. When the dude squirts his milk out, it’s kind of indescribable.
There’s nothing like knowing his manhood is swimming through your system after guzzling him down, you know?
Anyway, I’m about to tell you a big secret so listen up.
Straight boys respect other well-built guys – a lot!
You don’t have be a bodybuilder but if you want to nut with the one you’ve been eyeing, your body needs to be comparable. Think of it as motivation for the gym, ok?
So, it’s like this – if there's one thing straight boys dig more than anything, it's a fit bod. They also like laid back. Think calm, go with the flow vibe, OK?
If you can channel that kind of energy, you’ll find that these men will approach you a whole bunch more. OK, here are my 10 tips.
1. Up Your Confidence
More than anything else, your confidence is going to determine what happens. I’m not trying to rain on your parade but from experience I’m here to tell you that when it does happen, it won’t be like what you read in gay stories where the guy just magically whips it out.
Instead, you need to be the one in charge. And that can only happen if you project confidence. Look, I realize what I’m about to say may be offensive but it needs to be stated: you’ve also got to come off manly.
Please don’t think I’m shaming anyone because I’m not. But for me to offer this advice, I’ve got to keep it real, based on experience.
Here are some tips:
- Fist bump the straight boy instead of a handshake
- Don’t stare but do establish eye contact
- When you communicate, speak with certainty
- Project laid back, down to earth persona
- Vibe out something lumbersexual if possible
2. Lower his guard
If you want to get with straight boys, you’ve got to adopt his mindset. Don’t confuse this with pretending to be straight. That’s a no-no (I’ll explain in a bit).
Instead, I’m simply suggesting you need to be aware of how straight boys think. As gay men, we are culturally different and communicate with our own lingo. Straights do the same thing! And it’s not the stereotypical BS we hear about either.
Use these tips:
Engage in small talk about basic stuff. Example: Your local sports team.
Try to talk in private whenever possible
Identify areas where you share things in common. Use ice breaker questions. Examples: “What do you think of the Dolphins this year?” OR “What’s a good gym in town – I’m looking for a new one.”
Have a conversation but avoid being super nice or agreeable. Straight boys dig the give and take. Play your cards close to your vest but not too close. See the next point because it’s a biggie.
3. Don’t say you are straight
I’m here to tell you the absolute worst thing you can do is pretend to be straight. Regardless of what you read elsewhere, take it from me that it’s a bad idea.
The minute you tell a straight boy you are heterosexual, it kills any opportunity for a hook up. Instead, you need to embrace who you are. I’m not saying scream it from the rooftops.
Instead, I’m suggesting to not deny it.
Some tips:
- Avoid outing yourself right away. If he asks you about girls, just tell him you two are on different teams.
- After you reveal that you are into men, one of two things will happen. He’ll either take off fast and ghost you or he’ll stick around. If he sticks around, take it as a positive sign. If he bolts, that’s fine. You don’t want to waste your time with a homophobe.
- During conversation, he may mention he has gay friends. Go with that and consider it a positive sign.
- Infuse other aspects of your life into conversation. After all, you are more than just who you have sex with, right?
4. Build trust
In my experience, getting it on with a straight boy takes time. Don’t expect it to be instant. As with any relationship in life, trust is key.
If you’ve followed the previous steps mentioned above, you should be at the half-way mark. There are other things you will need to do, however:
Tips:
- Ask him about his goals for the future
- Encourage him but don’t overdo it
- Allow him to share private things with you. Research shows that straight boys value same sex relationships way more than with their girlfriends. There's science to back it up.
- Learn something about sports. You don’t have to be an expert but know some of the basics. For example, do you know the difference between a quarterback and wide receiver?
- Be patient. It can take many months before something happens. When it does – it will be organic and unplanned.
5. Making the first move
This one will no doubt be the most difficult. Because I’m a direct guy, I’ll cut straight to the chase.
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It’s like this – when the time is right, you will know. During the buildup phase, he’s going to give you a boatload of subtle hints. So, what are they?
- Laughing at your jokes
- Asking what you are up to
- Smiling at you
- Bro-touching (hand on shoulder, fist bump)
- Wrestling or other contact sport behaviors
If you want to some visuals on how this might unfold, you might want to some of these videos via this completely not safe for work link. It’s worth your time – I promise.
When the time is right, you need to be super direct and let him know you want to fool around.
I’m going to give you some options here. Just bear in mind that he’s been your buddy for some time now. He knows that you are gay, too. That’s why I mentioned earlier not to say you are straight.
Here are the options:
- Crack a joke about messing around with him. Example: I can see why the ladies like you bro. Not gonna lie. I dig you too.
- Texting is ok IF you feel it’s safe. This means the woman he’s with won’t see what you’ve messaged. Here’s what I’ve written: Hey man – I’m coming over to give you a brojob. If he’s freaked out, he’ll tell you right away. If he’s down, he’ll say “cool”.
He may text you back and ask if you were being serious. Now is not the time to chicken out. Instead, hit him back with a simple “yes”.
The guy is either down with it or he’s not. If he is, proceed to the next step.
6. Don’t make love to him
At this point – everything is about to fall into place. You really are going to get with that straight boy you’ve been pining for. Right on!
But there’s one very important thing you need to remember. Here it goes – do not make love to him! Let me explain why.
Remember, the dude you are about to do does not think of himself as “gay”. If you start kissing on him, playing with his hair and getting all affectionate – the man is going to bolt – fast!
The last thing he wants to think of himself as is gay.
We can debate the whole “label” thing forever and a day. It won’t change the reality that he doesn’t view himself that way.
Remember, your mission here is to him to feed you. That’s why it’s critical when you drain him to do it the right way. For pointers on this, see tips below.
- Have him come to your place. Don’t do it at his because it might feel awkward.
- Make sure all the shades are pulled. Play some classic rock in the background.
- Dim the lights. He doesn’t need the spotlight on him. The darkness makes it less intense.
- Skip the 420. You don’t need it. If the straight boy you are draining has his own and he wants to do it, that’s up to him.
- Prior to his arrival, be direct about what’s going to happen and then get right down to business. No small talk.
- If he’s nervous or slow out of the gate, just tell him to unzip his pants or pull down his sweats.
- When you start sucking him, make sure you do it in a way that straight boys don’t freak out. Read this guide on how to give a brojob.
- When you sense that he’s about to nut, he may announce it and start to pull away. That’s when you cup your hand around his calf and pull him close. This way, you know you’ll get fed.
- When he’s done releasing, skip the small-talk. Give him a bottle of water and fist bump and tell him “cool bro.” Let him take off and go back home.
- Avoid any talk about hot massive his manhood is, even if he's as big as this dude from Big Brother (not safe to view at work link). It's just too awkward for them coming from another dude.
7. He’ll come back for more
If everything has gone right, you can bet he’s going to come back again. But here’s the thing – this doesn’t mean he’s going to top you or bottom.
Based on experience, I’m here to tell you this takes a long time to happen.
Prepare yourself to go through an extended period where all he wants is a blow and go. Eventually, he’ll get curious about what it’s like to suck another dude. You just need to be patient.
In the future, things may escalate. Let him guide the way and be the one in charge. He may want to know what it’s like to penetrate you (something I don’t do because I’m top). He may also want to feel what it’s like to be bottom.
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Just let the universe unfold and see where it goes.
8. Kissing straight boys
There may come a point where you want to make out with the straight boy you’ve been doing. It’s only natural.
I’ll give you my best advice on this one – don’t do it unless he initiates.
Guys, I’m here to tell you the second he detects things are getting emotional, he’s going to jet. That may not be what you want to hear but I’m just being real with you.
If he does want to make out, let him be the one to drive the bus. Many straight boys need to get all alpha. I’m an alpha myself. All I can tell you is to let him do it. There will be time enough later for you to be more aggressive.
9. He’s not your boyfriend
Under this tip, I’ll keep it short and sweet. He’s not your boyfriend.
If you are like me, your attraction to the straight boy you are draining may be overwhelming. In turn, this may cause you to fantasize that he’s your main man.
Should this happen, reel yourself back in fast.
You may think of him as “gay” or “bi” after hooking up a few times but remember, that’s not how he thinks of himself. If you have any questions about this, you need to read this story about a straight dude who fell in love with a gay man.
Look, I recognize that the minute he whipped it out, his identity as “hetero” went up in smoke. But remember this isn’t about trying to make him see that he’s bi or curious. Instead, it’s about getting it on with him.
See the difference?
10. It’ll eventually end
At some point, the sexual relationship you are having with the straight boy will come to an end. There are a variety of reasons for this.
What’s important is to not ask “why”? Instead, be grateful for the time you had together.
I could list out a page full of reasons why things stop. But the main one is that he’ll eventually gravitate back towards his true north – which is mostly heterosexual.
If you are looking for inspiration on how to get with straight boys, there’s a cool website with totally not safe for work material that shows you a few things (link). I highly recommend.
Bringing it all together
The last thing I’ll leave you with this. Trust your gut. If the straight boy you like vibes out something weird, don’t do it.
There’s plenty of other guys out there. Never do anything that might jeopardize your safety. Finally, be prepared for him to quickly cut things off. It happens. Sometimes, after that first-time experience, they freak out. Just accept it and move on.
Thanks for taking the time to read!
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