A Gay Man's Guide To Safer Barebacking and Breeding

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GAY BREEDING EXPLAINED

By: Matt in Iowa

Gay breeding is one of those terms you hear about but may not be sure what it means. Moreover, the phrase has been incorrectly used in ways that give the experience a dirty connotation.

In this post, I’d like to share with you the true meaning of gay breeding. Additionally, I’ll reveal some of my own experiences.

Finally, I’ll provide the pros and cons of gay breeding so that you can make smart decisions about your sexual health.

In this article, you will learn:

The definition of gay breeding
Where the term gay breeding came from.
How gay breeding is used in conversation
Why gay breeding is attractive to some men
Typical behaviors associated with breeding
Pros and cons of breeding
Health risks associated with gay breeding
Safer approaches to seeding and breeding
Common myths about gay breeding

Before continuing, I’d like to state now that the decision to bareback and partake in raw sexual play is an individual choice. Obviously, engaging in stealth sex behaviors is wrong likely illegal.

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WHAT IS GAY BREEDING?

Gay breeding can be defined as a consensual situation where a man deposits his ejaculate into another may through his anus. It is a common behavior as part of bareback sex.

Some men (gay and straight) have also referred to this activity as seeding. Here, a man will pump his semen into another man’s hole with the guy who is bottoming desiring his “load”.

Among men who identify as gay and have sex with men, the top man is considered the breeder. The bottom man is the guy being bred.

WHERE DID GAY BREEDING COME FROM?

The exact etiology of the term is unknown. Historical accounts show that “breeding” in gay slang came about sometime during the 1990’s.

At the time, a lot of guys included “breeding” language as part of their profile to indicate they were into taking another man’s semen (load).

The origins of this gay slang term are thought to be connected to animalistic behaviors involving mating. Example: A male wolf mates with a female wolf and ejaculates in her. In this scenario, the male is “breeding” the female with his DNA.

Today, many gay men consider this a form of piggy sex.

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HOW IS GAY BREEDING USED IN CONVERSATION?

Gay men who are into bareback (raw sex) will use variations of the term gay “breeding” in different ways.

Examples include:

I want you to breed me.

I’m into breeding other guys.

Let’s have a breeding party.

That guy bred my hole.

Do you bareback and breed?

Can you breed me with your manhood?

Breed me – I want to have your babies.

Can I breed you buddy?

TYPICAL GAY BREEDING BEHAVIORS

Right off the bat, I need to tell you I am on PREP. That said, in my life, I’ve seen a lot of guys who are into breeding. Because I’m only 25, I can’t speak to bareback sex prior to the time of PREP because I wasn’t active then (Learn about PREP).

I can tell you that since starting PREP in 2013 (back when I was 20) I’ve always barebacked and always made sure the guy’s load is inside of me.

BREEDING AS A GAY BOTTOM

As you can guess, I am a bottom. That’s not to say I haven’t topped other men because I have. But in gay dating and hook up app profiles, I identify as bottom.

Based on everything I’ve seen, gay men like me who are into breeding always do so eagerly. When a top informs me he wants to use a condom, I usually try to ask him to squirt up my hole just as he ejaculates.

I’ve also hooked up with curious guys where we masturbate together and just as he is about to cum, I sit on his penis. I always tell the guy I am going to do this in advance.

Finally, I’ve also been to breeding parties where different guys have shot their loads up my hole. Last year at a party, I think I took a total of 7 loads over the course of one night.

I watched one gay man who was learning to bottom for the first time get passed around (willingly) to at least five older guys who loaded him up like a hungry pig – no kidding.

GAY BREEDING AS A TOP

As I mentioned, I’ve topped other guys before but prefer being on bottom. During those occasions where I have been in this role, I’ve always bred the other guy bareback.

Again, this has been done with their permission and never “stealth” or secretly.

Looking back, whenever I have done it raw with a guy and bred his hole out, I wore a cock-ring. The reason being is because when you are on top and shoot your load deep into another guy’s hole, you need to have a major erection.

WHAT’S THE ATTRACTION TO GAY BAREBACK BREEDING?

A lot of gay men who aren’t into breeding ask me why I like it so much. I don’t blame guys for being curious about my motivations and am not offended by the questions.

I can only speak for myself and say that I like when a guy breeds me because I know when he’s done, part of the stuff that makes up the man (his essence) will be inside of me.

Sure, that may sound like I am romanticizing his sperm and maybe I am. But I’m not going to apologize for that.

There’s nothing like the feeling of a man’s hot seed getting squirted up your hole. Some people will tell you it’s impossible to feel. I’m here to tell you that’s complete BS.

You absolutely can feel a guy’s load squirting up your butt.

The other reason I like being bred out by a guy is because no matter what happens, that man will always be part of me. When his semen gets absorbed deep into my rectum and starts flowing through my bloodstream, it’s extremely hot.

Yes, swallowing his nut will accomplish some of what I’m describing but it’s not the same. There’s just something about knowing a guy’s load is being shot like a rocket into my anal cavern.

BAREBACK VS. CONDOM

Below you will find a video that explores the topic of gay bareback sex and somewhat touches upon the issue of breeding.

PROS AND CONS OF GAY BREEDING

I’m going to talk about the pros and cons of bareback sex and do it in a candid, straight forward way.

Let’s start out with the cons and then move into the pros because as a matter of health, it’s the responsible thing to do.

Cons

Risky and may expose bottom or top to STI’s (sexually transmitted infections).
HIV (an STI) can be spread through risky sexual behavior.
While PREP has been shown to be extremely effective in preventing HIV transmission, it is not thought to be foolproof per research.
Common STI’s associated with bareback sex that include breeding include: herpes, HPV, hepatitis B, syphilis, gonorrhea and chlamydia.
Tears or cuts in the anal wall can expose the top or bottom to other pathogens.
The CDC recommends condoms should be used during anal insertive sex, even if one or both men are on PREP.

Pros

Less inhibited and more sexually free.
Ability to connect on a stronger, more meaningful level with another guy.
Knowing that part of his DNA is inside and will always be part of you.
Capturing part of his genetic material forever, infused inside of your body.
Less stressful sex because both parties agree to bareback and breed.
May help two people in a relationship feel closer together.
Uncomplicated sexual contact individually or in groups.

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IS BREEDING RIGHT FOR ME?

The decision to bottom and let a guy breed you is personal and intimate. While I can’t tell say you should or shouldn’t do this, I will say that for me, it’s the only way to go.

Each of us must arrive at a decision point about what we will and won’t do sexually. As I have been told by guys who are not into breeding, it’s all about personal limits.

HOW CAN I SAFELY LET GUYS BREED ME?

If you decide that breeding is for you (either being bred as a top or breeding men as a bottom), it’s important to offer yourself the fullest extent of protection possible.

I’ve listed some points below as suggestions for safer bareback sex with breeding in mind. Remember, nothing is full-proof. Anyone who tells you otherwise isn’t being honest.

And while the current research on PREP holds good news, bear in mind this approach to HIV prevention is still new. The fact of the matter is, we don’t know about PREP’s long term effects.

12 BREEDING TIPS FOR BAREBACK SEX

1. Talk to your doctor about going on PREP. This will minimize your chances of being exposed to or spreading HIV, the virus that causes AIDS.

2. If you are HIV+, make sure you are engaging in what’s called “TasP”; the acronym for “Treatment as Prevention”. Men who are HIV+ and taking anti-retroviral medications and successfully suppressing their viral loads are extremely unlikely to spread HIV to others. See this post from The Body to learn more.

3. If you are bottoming and being penetrated by another man, it’s important for gay men to anally douche with an enema the right way. This means being extremely careful during the cleaning process to avoid tears, cuts and nicks.

4. Regularly visit the doctor and make sure you are getting tested for all the different STI’s (like every 2-3 months). If you have a good relationship with your doctor, be honest about your sexual behaviors.

5. Be careful with manscaping, including using a razor around your hole. Small cuts and nicks can expose you to STI’s. Also, if you are carrying a bug, a cut can expose the top to whatever you’ve got. A lot of gay men who bareback have decided to not shave for this reason.

6. Get vaccinated for Hepatitis A and B. Both forms of “HEP” are preventable but you must go through a series of shots so that you build immunity. This liver disease has been on the rise in Europe and other locations so it’s important to get yourself vaccinated sooner rather than later.

7. Get vaccinated for HPV. This virus causes nasty things like anal warts and bumps around other body parts, including the penis. By getting vaccinated, you don’t have to worry about it.

8. If you really are all about taking loads, you don’t have to take them from strangers. Consider engaging in a sexually exclusive relationship with another guy where both of you have been tested for STI’s and are free of any pathogens or bacteria.

9. Understand window periods. That’s a fancy way of describing the time between being exposed to a STI and it showing up on a test. For example, after exposure to Chlamydia, it takes anywhere from two to six weeks before a test will show “positive”.

10. If you go to a sex party and take a bunch of loads, understand anything you may have been exposed to isn’t going to show up on a test for a while. HIV, for example, has a very long window period. Nearly 95% of HIV tests are accurate after the 6-week mark. There are some situations, however, where it can take up to 6 months for a positive read to show up. That’s why your best bet is to go on PREP for HIV prevention.

11. Monitor your body regularly. This means actively inspecting it for any signs of change. If you see or feel bumps, don’t ignore it. Should a rash pop up out of the blue, don’t blow it off. If you get sick for no apparent reason, let your doctor know.

12. If you think you may have picked up something, do not engage in any sexual activity – including breeding – until you get the “all clear” from your doctor.

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BREEDING MYTHS ABOUT GAY MEN

There are several myths regarding gay men who are into breeding. Many of them are created from the stuff of homophobia. A few that are nothing more than urban legend.

Here are a few biggies: