Do Women Find You Financially Unattractive?
Dating and romance can be tricky. If you are like many single men, you probably spend a fair amount of time trying to keep yourself in shape so that you can attract potential suitors. This means you work out, watch what you eat and are careful about alcohol intake. And because you realize you aren’t getting any younger, you try your best to get at least 8-hours of sleep.
Sound familiar? If you answered yes to these questions, then you might be wondering, “Why am I still single?” While I don’t pretend to have all of the answers, I can share with you that for a number of guys, they often overlook how their personal finances may be acting as a repellent.
That may seem harsh but its true, at least in my experience as a dude. You see now-a-days, most people who want to date someone seriously are looking for more than just a hot body to curl up with. And while bulging biceps and six pack abs might be nice, it takes a whole lot more to snag someone for the long term.
So what am I talking about? Well, to keep it real – I’m talking about money – meaning your money. It’s not so much about how much you have but instead, what you make and how you spend it. Does that sound terrible? Probably. But is it the truth? You bet.
And so what follows are 7 ways you may be making yourself financially unattractive to a potential mate. Some of these points may seem obvious while others will cause you to pause and think. I encourage you to read them all in order to absorb their deeper meaning.
Are you ready? Let’s jump right in!
1. You are cash poor
If you were to look in your wallet now, would you find a bunch of dust bunnies wagging their tales back at you? Do you constantly reach for credit cards to pay for daily expenses because you don’t have money in your bank account to cover incidentals?
If this is your daily reality, it’s a fairly strong indication that you are cash poor. And believe it or not, when you are dating someone, that type of thing gets noticed. While a potential mate doesn’t expect you to be Warren Buffet, he also doesn’t want to date someone who he thinks he’ll have to financially support.
2. You never reach for your wallet
Were you suddenly dropped by someone for no apparent reason? Did the person you were seeing suddenly ghost you from out of the blue? Have you been trying to figure out what happened?
While there are a number of reasons things didn’t work out, it is important to ask yourself if money was part of the equation. If they always paid for outings while you sat back and them do it, this may be an important clue as to why the relationship collapsed. Expecting someone to pay your way is a major turn off.
3. You are always broke
If you are a 20-something man, you are likely just starting out in life and trying to build your financial strength. But if you are someone over 30, being constantly broke shouldn’t be the norm.
Most guys who are hoping to find that special someone want to connect with a mate that can hold their own financially. That doesn’t mean you have to be wealthy but it does mean that you should have enough resources to keep yourself afloat from day to day. As a general rule of thumb, you should be making at least one thousand dollars for each year of your life.
If you are always saying, “I’m broke” or if you constantly seem to be borrowing money, you need to know this makes you look financially unattractive.
4. You are a label whore
Does everyone think of you as the fashion bug? Are all of your clothes name brand? Do the sales clerks at the department store know you by name? Do you spend more money on underwear than you put into a savings account?
While there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look your best, it shouldn’t cause you to go into debt. And on this front, here is a little secret you might not know …
Many people find others who adorn themselves with designer labels a real turn-off. Why? Because guys who need to constantly show off their Polo this and Christian Dior that are advertising to the world they have self-esteem issues.
5. You spend more than you make
Do you like to buy all of your friends a round of drinks on the weekend? Are you considered “Mr. Good Times” by your buds because they know you’re the guy that will pick up the tab? On Monday morning, do you get text messages from your bank that warn you about being overdrawn?
If this sounds familiar, it is a strong indicator that you are spending more than you make. So why are you doing this? Is it to impress people in your circle or to create an image on a date? If you are answering yes, consider it a possible reason why you are having trouble keeping a mate.
6. You have roommates past 35
If you are in your 20’s or early 30’s, having a roommate isn’t all that unusual. But if you are getting close to 40 (or are older), living with a roomie can be a red flag that you don’t have your financial act together. Perhaps a bit hard to hear but it’s absolutely true.
Generally speaking, financially independent people live within their means. They don’t require a roommate in order to survive because they are self-sufficient enough to either rent their own place or own something.
Plus, having roomies means overnights will generally take place at his place, which can get real old, real fast!
7. You have no real career plans
There really is a difference between a job and a career. Jobs are task oriented and transactional in nature, meaning that you do a certain amount of work and earn a set amount of pay. A career, on the other hand, is something you are passionate about and is driven by motivation.
There’s nothing wrong with working a job just to make ends meet. But if you aren’t connected to what you are passionate about or aren’t doing anything to move yourself towards your career goal, a potential mate may find it a turn off.
Think about it. Don’t you want to date someone who knows what they want out of life and is working towards making it a reality?
Learning how to manage money isn’t an easy task. It takes self-discipline, time and effort to create financial success and ultimately wealth. If only there were a blueprint for how to do it. Well, it turns out there is.
One book you might want to consider is The Money Book for the Young, Fabulous and Broke by Suze Orman. What’s great about this read is the practical advice offered to readers in an easy to understand, no-nonsense way.
Remember, finding a potential suitor requires a multi-prong approach. Having handsome face and great body will only get you so far. In order to be successful, you want to be attractive on multiple levels, including financially.