10 Ways To Attract Women Like A Magnet

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If you want to attract women, here’s some quick hacks

Have you ever noticed that some men are naturals are drawing women close? Does it seem like they vibrate a certain confidence that is magnetic and alluring?

Do you want to be that man?

If so, you wouldn’t be alone. Let’s face it – most of us want to be as attractive as possible. This is particularly true if our goal is to meet someone special.

While physical appearance matters, true man magnets have learned to strike a balance between looks and charm.

When properly combined, the duo act as a powerful aphrodisiac that overwhelms the senses and supercharge the libido. Wouldn’t it be cool to get some of that? Well, guess what? You can without too much effort.

What follows are ten proven ways powerful ways to attract women. While the suggestions offered here are intended for dating, you may also apply to other life situations.

Let’s jump right in!

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1. Smile and laugh more

More than anything else, your approachability and attractiveness is dependent upon your body language. And that’s where smiling comes into play.

When you smile, you broadcast the message of being happy. And according to research, people are drawn to that – big time.


  • If you’re introverted, try practicing your smile in front of a mirror.
  • Laugh and giggle when you interact with others
  • Don’t take yourself so seriously

2. Ask fun questions

More than one scientific study has confirmed that asking boring questions on a date can be a real turn off. Why? Because they’re the standard boilerplate ones that are predictable.

Examples of rehearsed questions include asking about his employment, where he’s from, etc. To be a man magnet, avoid these like the plague.

Instead, reach for fun, thought-provoking questions that dig deeper.


  • What’s your favorite movie?
  • Tell me about the music you listen to.
  • What are you passionate about?
  • Do you have any hobbies?

3. Get some charm

If you want to reel in the ladies, you’re going to have to turn on the charm. But how can you do this when you can’t find the switch?

Here’s the straight forward truth – it requires work. That’s because genuinely charming people aren’t born that way.

Instead, they’ve carefully studied others and mirrored desired behaviors. There’re even books on this stuff (see Amazon).

One great bit of advice is to use props. If you are a dog owner, it’s probably the most powerful tool in your charm arsenal.

Here’s why:

Studies confirm that men with dogs are perceived as more attractive and more charming than their canine free counterparts.

Don’t have a dog? That’s OK. Talk about something to do with animals or better yet, their pet. Pet owners love talking about their fur babies because they are considered part of the family.

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Be a little mysterious

4. Be a little mysterious

Many people confuse this point with being sinister. But the two constructs couldn’t be more different. To be mysterious means to not be an open book on every aspect of your life.

Several studies have confirmed that guys who channel a bit of mystery about themselves come off as magnetic. So how can you put out this vibe?


  • Don’t broadcast your whole life story when meeting someone
  • Deflect questions that get too personal too soon.
  • Always maintain a calm exterior

5. Channel confidence

Time again, surveys tell us that what makes a man sexy is his outward level of confidence. But don’t confuse confidence with arrogance. It’s usually the psychopaths and narcissists who exhibit the later.

Instead, your goal is to project an air of inner strength. And the best way to accomplish this is by focusing on your body language.

If you have a chance, check out this post on what women are really attracted to and notice the emphasis on confidence.

For now, here’s some pointers:

  • Pay attention to posture
  • Shake hands firmly
  • Lean into the person when they speak

6. Make eye contact

For a lot of people, this one can be a struggle. After all, nobody wants to be the guy who stares. So how can you pull this off without seeming like a weirdo?

It’s simple – focus on gazing into her eyes. You may have to practice this over time to master the technique.

Here’s some suggestions:

  • Focus on one eye and hold your gaze for 10 seconds
  • Break eye contact by nodding. Then, focus on the other eye.
  • Bring your attention to a nearby spot, like her nose or an eyebrow
  • Make sure your own eyes aren’t baggy and sagged and learn how to get rid of dark circles.
Active listening
Listening actively matters

7. Use active listening

Magnetic men aren’t just mindless earpieces that nod their head up and down during a conversation. Instead, they employ the skill of active listening.

But what does that term really mean?

In a nutshell, active listening is when you interact with the person to demonstrate you are truly paying attention. This involves body language, coupled with the art of the question.

Here’s some tips.

  • Tilt your head towards her direction when she speaks
  • Use reflective language: “It sounds like that was stressful.”
  • Ask thoughtful questions: “What options are you considering?”
  • Empathize: “I would be upset too. I’m sorry that happened.”

8. Get some facial hair

If you’re running around with a smooth face, you might want to consider growing a beard. That’s because recent research suggests that men with facial hair are perceived as sexier.

If you’re unsure what style to sport, consider something from our celebs with facial hair page.

And if you’ve already got some fur on your mug, why not change things up? Grow it longer or trim it shorter and if it’s starting to turn gray, touch it up with color.

Finally, on this point – I’m not saying having a smooth face is unattractive. But I am suggesting that having some amount of growth could amp up your sexiness factor.

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Focus on attractiveness

9. Invest in your appearance

Sure, genetics has a lot to do with attractiveness. But that doesn’t mean you can’t do things to enhance what you’ve already got. And chances are, you’ve got more than you think!

If you’re in your 30’s, learn all you can about preventing lines and wrinkles. MV created a page that offers tips on this front so be sure to check it out! See this men in their 30’s skincare post.

If you’re 40 or over, check out this special page that offers useful tips on becoming a handsome DILF.

And yes, physical activity, exercise, and diet are important. Consider hiring a personal trainer or consulting with a nutritionist to help you with body goals.

Time and again, the published research tell us that guys who invest in their appearance are consistently perceived as younger, healthier and more attractive. See this page weightlifting and men for more info.

10. Use the right cologne

Our final tip relates to how you smell. One of the biggest mistakes men make when picking a cologne is choosing something because it’s fashionable or trendy.

And let’s be real – some of those products are ridiculously expensive; like between $200 – $300! That’s just nuts!

Here’s the thing – you don’t need to spend lots of cash to achieve a crisp scent. A study appearing in Evolution and Human Behavior confirms that colognes with a woodsy, masculine vibe work best at activating pheromones.

What are pheromones? Well, they’re basically chemicals that get secreted in the brain that stimulate sexual arousal.

So which colognes should you get? Here are some suggestions with price points that might surprise you!


Last thought on colognes. The goal should be to put have a hint of scent about you, meaning don’t overwhelm. If you are looking for more ideas on men’s fragrances, see this extensive page on sexy colognes for men.

Summing It Up

It’s important to think of attractiveness through the bifocal lenses – meaning what you look like and your personality.

If your goal is to draw women closer to you and increase your dating opportunities, I hope what’s been shared on this page has been useful!

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Jack is a wise but mysterious figure whose exact whereabouts and identifying details remain unknown. What we do know is that he's really, really good at relationship challenges. He’s been on more dates than you can shake a stick at, and he’s here to help men from all walks of life step up their game.