Bi People & Bi-Erasure
Male bisexuality finally gets the visibility it deserves.
Unfortunately, we live in a world where bisexuality is often ignored or discredited. Whenever someone brings up the fact that they are bisexual, they are often talked down to. For instance, women who say they are bisexual often meet ridicule and the argument that they’re just experimenting before finding a man. Meanwhile, bisexual men are often mocked as being closeted gay men. Then you sprinkle on tropes like being sex-obsessed or villainous. Frankly, there’s a lot to unpack when it comes to bi-erasure in modern society.
As GLAAD writes on the matter, “Bisexual erasure or bisexual invisibility is a pervasive problem in which the existence or legitimacy of bisexuality (either in general or in regard to an individual) is questioned or denied outright.”
The LGBTQ organization then added:
“For example, two married women might spend time in community spaces dominated by lesbians. Perhaps one of the women is bisexual and objects to the assumption that she is a lesbian (i.e., when others call the two women a ‘lesbian couple’). However, every time she mentions this, others insist that she can’t really be bisexual or that her orientation doesn’t matter (perhaps with the subtext that she shouldn’t talk about it) now that she is partnered.”
The biphobia towards Bi men recently has been so shit and honestly, in MY LGBT+ history month?! How dare! So I’m bring back #BisexualMenExist for some much needed positivity! Drop a pic below with the hashtag and RT this thread! Allies, also RT! I’ll start! 💖💜💙 pic.twitter.com/BYl1D2hzvV
— Vaneet Mehta 🥀 (@nintendomad888) February 24, 2020
But thankfully, one recent Twitter thread helped to put a face (or a 100) to the situation.
Earlier today, #BisexualMenExist trended online. The hashtag inspired many internet users to not only share pictures of themselves but also share truths about their lives as bisexual men.
“I struggled for a long time growing up as a queer male in the south with what I identified as,” wrote one Twitter user. “Ppl would say you’re just gay, you don’t really like girls. NOT TRUE. Quit putting down and pretending men who like BOTH don’t exist!”
Just Bc it is trending #BisexualMenExist!! I struggled for a long time growing up as a queer male in the south with what I identified as. Ppl would say you’re just gay, you don’t really like girls. NOT TRUE. Quit putting down and pretending men who like BOTH don’t exist! pic.twitter.com/I3WLF80mul
— Quan Patterson (@Q__TIP11) February 25, 2020
“No matter how masculine we are, no matter whether we are dating a man or woman, and we deserve to be seen. Just like everyone, we deserve to be loved,” wrote another.
— R.K. Russell (@RKRelentless) February 25, 2020
Check out some of the faces and stories behind the #BisexualMenExist trend down below.
— Steve l BBTG (@the_bicon) February 25, 2020
— 🧚🏾♂️🧚🏾♂️🧚🏾♂️ (@waln0t) February 25, 2020
I struggled with imposter syndrome a lot that affects everything from how I dress to labeling my sexuality. But recently I’ve gotten to a point where I’m finally comfortable expressing myself 🤗 #BisexualMenExist pic.twitter.com/v5Oil6eMyM
— Dan Tifa 🔮 (@marbleplague) February 25, 2020
— Tobin (@T_Dot1111) February 25, 2020
— Karl Thorssen 👑 (@KThorssen) February 25, 2020
— brruce vayne (commissions in progress) (@hotboybebop) February 25, 2020
— Max Emmerson (@MaxEmmerson) February 25, 2020
— blizzb3ar 💗💜💙 (@blizzb3ar) February 25, 2020
— Edwin ✨ (@theyhatedaboy) February 25, 2020
I'm real. I exist. I'm faithful. I matter to more people than I choose to believe. Still, no money in the world or change in time will stop me from making fun of myself. #BisexualMenExist #StillBisexual pic.twitter.com/WsG0EA7I30
— Jordan Brown (@escapade_94) February 24, 2020
— henry from online ✷ (@xdesro) February 24, 2020